What does the asterisk mean after Mama in this blog’s name?
It means that:
- Not every nurturing parent is a woman
- Not everyone who cares about the well-being of children is a parent
- Gender is complicated, and not everyone fits into the neat categories of mother and father
Most of all, the asterisk is a message of welcome. Whoever you are, welcome to Bifocal Mamas. The asterisk only lives in this blog’s Header, but it’s implied everywhere.
So why not say that in the title? Why name the blog Bifocal Mamas?
Well, first of all, because I am a mama.
But more importantly, the readers who are most in my mind when I write are, well, the mamas.
The nurturing parents (yes, whatever their gender). The ones who know in their bodies the cost of childbirth. The ones who know in their minds the anxiety of adoption. The ones tethered to their babies by nursing and bottle and nap schedules. The ones keeping track of their families’ schedules, making sure everyone gets where they need to go. The ones who know how exhausting it feels to be too tired to keep going, and yet keep going anyway, because you have to.
In some families, that’s the Papa, or the Daddy, or both parents. As the mother of a son, I celebrate those of you who are transforming and expanding what it means to be a man.
But in a lot of families, it’s the mama. And until that changes, until it’s just as easy for any woman to make a difference in the world, I’m OK with calling this blog Bifocal Mamas.
We have no choice but to focus on our kids—and we also want to focus on changing the world they’ll inherit. If that’s you, I’m glad you stopped by.